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Thunderstorms Provide A Valuable Lesson In The World of Attraction by Steve Amarante

She was simply stunning. Caramel skinned, soft welcoming seductive eyes, possessing a smile that can light up a room, I was hooked.  Approaching her became a necessity not a desire. As she entered the train I can see her headed towards the only empty seat available that was coincidental next to me. Faith, serendipity, whatever you want to call it, filled with years of training, my brain quickly sprung into action, setting forth body language, opening statements, conversation hooks, movement mirroring among just a few tricks of the trade.

Benjamin Franklin’s Jedi-Mind Attraction Technique Revealed by Steve Amarante

A renowned author, politician, scientist and inventor, Benjamin Franklin epitomized and encapsulated the essences of today’s renaissance man, a man with intellectual acumen, creative suppleness who dressed the part and walked with a quite swagger. Mostly celebrated for his inventions and diplomacy (bifocals and the lighting rod to name a couple) his greatest discovery may have taken place within the walls of the Pennsylvania legislature, a discovery that can be leveraged to build an initial “Attraction Bridge” with that special someone.

As with any legislative body, political disagreement and opposition was commonplace during Franklin's tenure. Bothered by the lack of diplomacy and unwavering resistances for cooperation, Franklin explored for a way to help garner his opponent’s admiration and friendship when he soon came upon an old proverb:

“He that has once done you a kindness will be more ready to do you another, than he whom you yourself have obliged”

Implementing the proverb, Franklin would request to borrow books from members of the legislative. He would read the book(s) and a week or so later would return the book with a sincere letter of appreciation. In subsequent face-to-face meeting with those members he would find that there attitudes toward him had changed, they’ve become much more amiable and civil. In some cases forming life long connections.

How can you leverage this to help you “Get the girl?” Simple: Get her to do
you a favor…and follow it up with a formal "Thank you" of some kind.

If there’s a woman who you’ve had an eye out for and has been in your “peripheral”, that’s to say she knows of you but no true connection has been formed, ask her to do you a favor of some kind.

You may be wondering why this works:

When someone does you a favor they are forced to find emotional and psychological congruency. She will ask herself “why am I going out of my way to do this jerk a favor? Maybe he’s not that much of a jerk…Steve’s not that bad come to think of it”.

In this technique, by requesting her to perform a favor, you’ve put her in a situation where she needs to contemplate and justify her actions, actions that once taken will, often enough, put you in her good graces. In particular if followed by a sincere "thank you for the favor" on your end.

Another reason this works well is because there’s a perceptional power shift. She will naturally think that she has something you “need” and she holds all the cards and power. This is fine--just stay focused on the outcome.

Survival Tip: The favor must come easy to her. She shouldn’t struggle or require much effort to perform the favor. An easy favor will help her overcome her initial resistance to want to help you…

Share The Water…

Steve Amarante
www.luvjungle.com

References: Jecker, J and Landy D. (1969) Benjamin Franklin effect. Human Relations, 22:371-78

Recommended reading: YES! 50 scientifically proven ways to be persuasive by Noah J. Goldstein, Steve J. Martin and Robert B. Cialdini

Recommended site: http://www.influenceatwork.com/

Genetically speaking, opposites do attract by Steve Amarante

When we think of attraction with regards to the subconscious; it’s often frame within the contexts of body language, structuring words (pick up lines) with suggestive inferences but never from the perspective of our genetic make-up. A recent study out of the University of Parana in Brazil however, implies that opposite genes plays a significant subconscious factor in how we choose a mate.

Having studied married couples; it was note that married duos were more likely to have genetically differences in DNA regions that govern the immune system than where randomly matched pairs.  Why?

America’s Past Time: Lessons In Attraction From The World Of Baseball

To the untrained eye, baseball, like all sports, appears to the layman observer as a group of men whirling a spherical “cowhide” object with the sole purpose of making contact, and running with no intended purpose whatsoever. On the other hand, what the astute observer sees is a strategic dance between pitcher and batter. As the pitcher hurls the ball, in milliseconds, the batter must decide to swing or let the ball pass on by. This dance plays out through a series of complex interactions of “give and takes” between two individuals, each trying to determine the opposition’s next move--moves which parallel and have lessons in the attraction process.

Why Every Single Male Should Make A Yearly Pilgrimage To Las Vegas by Steve Amarante

It’s been a week since my recent trip to Vegas, and as I reflect on all the tomfoolery, I couldn’t help question some of my fellow single mates, who’ve interrogated me as to why I go spend a seemly ridiculous amount of money on sinful pleasures.  For those skeptics here are two subtle and overlooked reasons.

1.    Vegas helps reduce anxiety approach when you come back home—This may seems counter intuitive as for anyone that has spent any time in Vegas recently, would tell you that women are dressed to impress. Walk the strip and there’s no shortage of 8’s 9’s and 10’s. Here’s a lesson: learn to mentally “bottle up” those 9’s and 10’s; what I mean by this is try to remember how that 10 looks (this shouldn’t be to hard if you’re a breathing male). Now, next time you’re approaching a girl back home, mentally compare the female you’re about to approach to that 10 you saw in Vegas. Chances are-she’s not as attractive.  What will naturally happen is that your approach anxiety will automatically be reduced as the law of contrast kicks in. If you tell yourself “she’s hot but not as hot as the girl I try to approach in Vegas” the likelihood of overcome approach anxiety will be dramatically reduced.

Yes: Even Vegas Can Teach Us A Thing Or Two About Relationships By Steve Amarante

Here’s the thing. Everyone who’s been to Vegas often comes back hyping how great it was. As the saying goes; “What Happens in Vegas, Well, Stays in Vegas”...The slogan along implies that you are in, if anything, for a pretty interesting time.  I’ve been fortunate enough to visit this city 8 times in the past 3 years and I can’t recall a time when I simply didn’t have a blast!

The secret?

Building Attraction Using Pet Nicknames Revisited by Steve Amarante

A while back we discussed the power of leveraging pet nicknames and private jokes to build attraction. The effectiveness of this technique is found in that it creates an auditory “regression” response. Her past associations of nicknames and private jokes instantly creates a mental “relationship paradigm” that she subconsciously project onto you.  I ran across a study that can take the use of nicknames a step further.  The study, conducted by Mauricio Carvallo and John Jones, suggests that people choose to marry others who have similar-sounding first or last names. All else being equal, if Sandra, Steve, Michelle and Michael all meet one another for the first time, Sandra will be more likely to become romantically involved with Steve then with Michael, and the opposite is more likely to occur with Michelle.  The underlying reason is that people have a natural tendency to be attracted to things that remind themselves.

Never Ask A Woman Out—Invite Her To Participate In Your Everyday Experiences Instead by Steve Amarante

Rejection is never easy-especially if it comes from that special girl you’ve been pursuing. The fear of rejection, in some, is so strong that often guys choose not to ask, potentially missing out on a life of happiness or an enduring friendship.  One of the best way to reduce approach anxiety is NOT to ask her out on a date; instead invite her to participate into something that is presumable part of your daily, weekly or monthly experience.

What do AIG, Gold Diggers and Chris Brown all have in common? Change for them is hard (by Steve Amarante)

AIG announced today that part of the bail out money provided by the US government was used to distribute performance bonuses as well as bail out, get this, some of the banks that had already received bail out money! Talk about the private sector gone wild. But here’s the thing: No one, President Obama, investors or US citizens should be surprised. AIG went unregulated for years, undisputed and challenged in a world of corporate greed. The behavior of these corporate titans parallels those of men in relationships with gold diggers or women who stay in abusive relationships. Change is hard-but the signs of there disruptively behaviors are around us, and, if identified, we should be not surprised if continuously repeated.

The Panhandlers Secret Pick Up Method, A Lesson in Female Attraction By Steve Amarante

 The New York City Mass Transit, unfortunately, has no shortage of panhandlers and the six train is no exception. As my main means of returning home from a day of work, and for several years at that, the train, and the faces of those who cram these mobile metal people haulers become familiar over time. Rocawear, as I came to know one of the panhandlers as he wore a Rocawear sweater over several other layers of clothing, would often get off the last stop of the train, which was my stop as well.  Rocawear would head down to street level and prepared for one of the best attraction sleight of verbal manipulation ever, and, in the process served as an example of the three foundations of all attraction: opening, comfort and then closing.

Own Your Domain Name and Manage You On-Line “Brand”…A Lesson in Break ups by Steve Amarante

If you go to www.steveamarante.com you won’t see much. And that’s not such  a bad thing. In fact it will direct you to the hosting company but here’s the key: I OWN IT. Soon enough something (of my choice), that properly represents me, as I see fit, will be displayed. Such is the world of Google Ranking. If you don’t control your own personal brand in the future someone else will. Including but not limited too a pissed off Ex-girlfriend.  A woman scorned in Google-topia means she can manipulate and cram your name and reputation down the search page with as much truth (or lies) as her vengeful heart deems necessary. 

Domestic Violence Goes Beyond The Immediate Victims

Domestic violence is horrible at so many levels. Beyond the victims, in this case Rihanna, often friends and family are put in situations in which they have to question there own judgment. Here’s Diddy on the Ellen show explaining how we don’t really know what went down between two young adults. Diddy knows what the right answer is: Zero Tolerance.  But when friendship and business are involved the waters get a little murk and our moral compass gets put to the test. If that were Diddy’s mom would he want his mother staying with her abuser in a secluded home? 

Prevention vs. Treatment- Lessons from the Housing Crisis & Recession by Steve Amarante

 The Internet never forgets.  As a result we have a simplistic channel in which we can relive history. A few clicks here and there, you can easily find hundreds if not thousands of articles and commentaries warning us on the coming housing crisis economic down fall. Some articles go back as far as 2001.  Fast-forward to today; we are bombarded with news on stimulus packages, talks about a coming depression and massive layoffs.  We are now looking for treatments when all those years we had the opportunity to prevent. The same people, who ignored the news for all those years, are the ones now spending countless hours in the proverbial economic emergency room, zapping away with the paddles in hopes of reviving our economy. 

PART II on How to Use SMS To Improve Your Pick Up Game by Steve Amarante

According to a recent Indiana University study-researchers have confirmed that when men and women communicate through technology, it's women who are more expressive; specifically when men and women text message, women will use more non-standard (i.e. characters and symbols), expressive language techniques. The study found women used more non-standard language such as abbreviations or expressive insertions that represented characteristics including enthusiasm, sadness, emphasis and individuality. And while women were both more economical and expressive, they also came closer to maxing out, or did max out, on the 160-character message limit more often than their male counterparts.

Use SMS To Improve Your Pick Up Game by Steve Amarante

Unquestionably, SMS texting has gone mainstream, and in the process, has become an indispensable technology in a hectic world.  I’ve had the privilege of observing, over the past six months; two master “texting” pick up artist.  They seemly are able to texts an arrangement of words, in a 2 by 4 inch screen, that exude and generate sexual attraction. Here are some basic, yet often overlooked concepts, implemented by these M.T.P.A.