The chances that you’ll read this entire posting are slim to none. For all of its
wonders, the Internet has manifested a generation of “quick fix”, rapid answer individuals that are accustom to short bits of information and morsels of data. In a world of speed dating websites like 8minutedating.com, SMS texting, IM chatting and millions of one click options on itunes, Amazon and Barnes & Nobles, we are granted the luxury of not wasting time focusing on what we don’t want. A brisk glance and a few clicks on my preferences on Match.com means that if a woman’s profile doesn’t sound perfect after just a sentence or two, it’s easy to peek down at the next gal. All the “Noise” on the Internet (and yes I appreciate the irony of me writing and posting this via the web) forces our brains to focus on what is most relevant now; and in the process has recondition how we communicate in our relationships.
Popular social networks sites like myspace.com or facebook.com are more then just a means for us to communicate with our circle of friends. They are instruments used to reduce the amount of irrelevant “noise” generate on the web. The assumption is that circle of friends tend to share common interest, likes and wants.
What happens in a world in which you can purchase items with a single click? Or find a date with a click or two? What implication does this have on your existing relationships?
The implications and results are such that we only give tiny segments of attention to our significant others-- a warp type of relationship attention deficit disorder.
25% of the world is now “on line” in some form or fashion. As the forces of globalization continue to bring us closer together, we as individual will need to make sure that those same forces don’t dismantle, rather, chip away at our interpersonal skills, or shift the dynamics of our romantic relationship(s). This also applies to the “singles” scene, as the Internet conditions us to communicate in slices of information; the dating scene becomes one of survival of the fittest. With our segmented, rapid-fire interpersonal dialog it means that every initial contact potentially becomes a 3 second make-or-break proposition. You’re not awarded the chance to learn on the job. The notion that you never get a second chance of making a good first impression has never been so true. Conceivably in the long haul this is a good thing. In order to generate “instant” attraction we will have to learn to present ourselves in the best light possible forcing us, perhaps, in the process to become a better mate.
Survival Tip: Become aware of your communication cadence. Are you the type of person that communicates in caveman style single word grunts or perhaps you’re on the other end of the spectrum? Wherever in the proverbial communication bell curve you reside; be aware that your verbal cadence (pace/rhythm) and that of your mate is potentially projecting a behavior/attitude of which may be more of a reflection of the daily grid vs. your/her genuine inner state.
Share The Water…
Steve Amarante
www.luvjungle.com
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