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Online Dating Pitfalls...

Interesting article on CNN about some of the pitfalls of on-line dating. Read more here. 

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Steve Amarante

www.luvjungle.com 

3 Basic Things Beyond Your Looks That Will Instantly Improve Your Swag…

1. Posture:

 I have a friend of mine that specializes in helping actors with posture and body movement. Her field of operation is called the Alexander Technique. She basically teaches actors to improve physical postural habits, particularly those that have become ingrained and or are conditioned responses. The technique is claimed to improve performance, self-observation and impulse control and relieve chronic stiffness, tension and stress. She had made an observation about the way I was walking, and with a slight change, I become almost an inch taller. Of course, she didn’t literally make me taller—I had a slight slouch that affected my appearances.

 Remember: Women are attracted to confident men, and the first visible sign of this is good posture.

 2. Be a Gentlemen:

 This one is actually a slam-dunk.  With the amount of guys wearing their pants 2 inches below their butt crack, and the number of broken homes over the past 20 years, standard gentlemen qualities and basic mannerism have taken a back seat. Learn to use the utensils properly, take small bites—cavemen style eating should be left among the fellas.

Remember:  early on, these slight gestures are subconsciously suggestive.  There’s nothing seductive about implying, that during a make out session, you will engulf her like a raw steak. Women always have a recording going on in the back of their minds that goes “can I bring this guy home to mom and dad” and “what will my friends think of him…” 

3. Hygiene:

 The number of guys that don’t brush twice a day always floors me. You will see a guy wearing dirty clothes, smells like he just came back from a three-day workout and refuses to iron a shirt. Go get a scent at Sephora or Macy—the investment is well worth it.

 A recent Men's Health survey of women found that 31 percent of women would be willing to overlook a man making at least 10k less in salary if he was well groomed.

 Enough said…

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 Steve Amarante

www.luvjungle.com

 

 

 

 

Spider Web Traps Its Prey Not Because It’s Strong…

There’s so much we can learn from the spider. It creates a web appealing enough to attract its prey but shrewdly enough to stretch and “give” at the proper location. In a recent study, by Markus J. Buehler of the Massachusetts Institute of Technology, Buehler suggests, “Spider silk has a particular way of softening and then being stiff …that is really essential for it to function properly…” Spider web needs to be strong enough to sustain strong winds yet nimble enough to entice and seduce it quarry. The real genius is that spiders have figured out how only the most extended (and or worn) silk threads get severed during time of high stress. Having small portions of the web come apart not only helps retain the overall structural integrity but also makes the overall web stronger. Our “game” needs to mirror the spider webs behavior. Women are more sophisticated, more demanding and our male counterparts have been compelled to elevate their game creating more competition —adaptive, nimbleness and dexterity, like the spider web, are the qualities of the modern man. That’s not to say you won’t find an outlier—that one guy who magically is able to seduce a particular 9/10, nevertheless, possessing such characteristic can never hurt. Share The Water… Steve Amarante www.luvjungle.com

Separation of Church and State, Occupy Wall Street and Relationships

Compelling sign and question is it not? Who would Jesus foreclose on?

Some would argue that Jesus has no place in the current protest down at Wall Street; this was a man-made problem. Speaking to some of the protestors, they feel the exact opposite-that the divine guiding sprit of Jesus, Allah, Buddha and the likes is exactly what is needed and missing from Wall Street. I suppose the idea of “Separation of Church and State” was and is just that, an idea. In the tangible world, there could never be true separation.  We are always judged, morally, on how we spend our money. The irony of course is that we are judged on someone else’s moral compass. Our personal relationships are not that much different. Don’t think so, see how your wife or girlfriend would feel if you spend YOUR hard earned paycheck on the local stripper. Weather right or wrong, accountability, fairness and basic morality for the work put into your job or relationship is what the protestors and your significant others expects…

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Steve Amarante

www.luvjungle.com

If She’s Not Lying To You, Something Is Wrong... By Steve Amarante

In this instant gratification- digital world, it’s a bit ironic that the true time and tested mechanism for building trust is good old face-to-face conversation. Steady, accumulated conversation exposes our identity. Conversation however, never guarantees authenticity.  What’s utter from his or her lips can be manipulated, molded to fit your expectations of them.  In fact, lying is the norm.

It’s for this reason I advocate and preach so much about body language. Take a few minutes and check out this video from Pamela Meyer, author of Liespotting, and as you watch, remember this-trust can’t be purchased and it certainly can’t be downloaded; not even in this “instant” culture-well, not yet that is.

 

Recommended reading:

http://liespotting.com/ by Pamela Meyers

http://www.lyintamer.com/ Janine Driver’s -You say more than you think

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Steve Amarante www.luvjungle.com

"But what I was really happy with was____"

It’s amazing how one simple sentence can transform a relationship or date, if you’re willing to incorporate it. Think about it:

“I went to a Best Buy and purchased a new phone, but what I was really happy with was the customer service”

“The wedding we went to yesterday was amazing but what I was really happy with where the table settings”

Her: “We had such a great time at dinner, getting to know each other and joking around but what I was really happy with was____.

By rule, how you decide to fill in that last blank is what will take a normal date and make it memorable, extraordinary --same with your relationship. Go fill the blank…

 

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Steve Amarante

www.luvjungle.com

Dating lesson from the apocalypse—the power of the twig by Steve Amarante

   There will never be a shortage of charlatans prepared to sell you the latest cancer cure, hottest internet stock and, of course, swindlers marketing the end of the world. That impostors surround us is not so much of a surprise—the number of people in today’s world that believe in such shenanigans is. Despite the number of cons over the centuries (and the world not ending) people surrender to emotions, selling off personal possessions, uprooting their lives believing in ideology without vetting it through a proper spiritual or secular lens.

It begs the question-how can one individual market the end of the world?

How Money Can Improve Your Relationship by Steve Amarante

It’s not what you think—of course having deep pockets can “enrich” any relationship (personal or not).  What’s often overlooked is the duality of money. It's impossible to have a coin with only one side. You can't have heads without tails. In fact, the very essences of either side cannot exist without the presences of the other.

The weather, planets, currency, our taste buds and indeed relationships exhibit duality. Along those lines then, it stands to reason that one can’t have success unless you're prepared to have failure.

Which is why men that fear being in any type of relationship, or, for that matter, fear rejection when approaching a woman perplex me.  When failure is not an option, then by definition, neither is dating/attraction or success. The law of duality dictates it as such.  Lesson: Never fear the coin flip, better instead to focus on the potential positive outcome.

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Steve Amarante

www.luvjungle.com

Fire Ants, The Powell Doctrine and the Resurrection of the “Wing Man” by Steve Amarante

  It seems to be harder and harder too garish the attention of a good women these days. The pool is limited to begin with and what’s left is drying up quick. This vacuum has created a “me first” attitude among men, a hyper Darwinian “survivor of the fittest” assertiveness that caused a backlash among friends and women alike.

Decoding The Royal Wedding For Men… by Steve Amarante

There’s only one message you should walk away with all the hoopla about the Royal Wedding today. More then ever, women believe in the fantasy. No, they require the fantasy. Leverage this—become the prince. Note- the fantasy doesn’t always require a horse driven carriage.  It can be a simple night out, supporting her in pursuit of a new job, a long weekend getaway at a bed and breakfast etc.…Engage her in conversation, listen carefully, take steps towards the fantasy, fulfill fantasy, repeat. 

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Steve Amarante

www.lujungle.com